58 On Seeing Simple Truths - On the Helped and the Helper

EXPERIENCE has taught us that the helper helps the helped by demonstration only: 

·      Not by lecturing. 

·      Not by solution finding. 

·      Not by scolding. 

·      But simply by role-modeling clearly, in plain sight, what it is that needs to happen. 

No shame, no blame, just interaction, both in the nama and the rupa - the name and the form.  For it is in the contents of the form, the rupa, that the various interactions are undertaken.  It is here that the assistance is clearly demonstrated by doing the daily rituals of the helper. Helpers must simply be themselves, and not try to put on a mask they think will help the other. The business of being a helper is not an effortful lesson offered by the martyred ego. It is truly an exercise in being who we were intended to be. 

Finally, it is an exercise in trusting that the miracle will happen in its own good time, just as it should, and not necessarily in the fashion that the helper might like to think it should happen. 

To Be Free Of Self-Judgment And Recrimination,

Free To Be A Friend,

With No Agenda.

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