Tuesday, May 23, 2017

011 On Appreciating Deeper Processes - Sadness



EXPERIENCE has taught us that our sadness is the key part of our grieving-healing process. 
Life has only one constant, and that is change.  All change involves a giving up, a loss, and that always requires grieving. 
Experiencing our sadness is about our ability to move from the old to the new, from loss to gain, from past relationships to new intimacies without dragging along the emotional baggage. 
All recovery is about grieving, because all recovery is about dealing with loss. 




Grief Fuels The Forward Movement In Our Lives



Experience Has Taught Us – 175 Missing Pieces –

An Explorer’s Guide to Developing a Handbook on Life

Neil Douglas-Tubb
Available ... Amazon.ca as eBook


Tuesday, May 16, 2017

010 On Appreciating Deeper Processes - Sadness

EXPERIENCE has taught us that not many of us received something like that - being listened to and understood. 
How many of us have had our feelings of sadness affirmed?  It seems so simple, and yet it happens so seldom. 
Most of us were talked out of our feelings or made to feel bad about feeling sad.  We got ignored or teased or made fun of.  Sometimes we just got told not to cry - “don't worry, everything will be okay.”  Sometimes we got told that if we didn’t stop, “then I’ll really give you something to cry about.” 
All of this denies our feelings, which in turn blocks our healing processes.  This, in turn, denies our innate sense of vulnerability, and thus blocks any hope of future intimacy with others or with ourselves.

Something So Simple And So Small.
How Could It Be So Important In Its Absence?
But It Is!



Experience Has Taught Us – 175 Missing Pieces –

An Explorer’s Guide to Developing a Handbook on Life

Neil Douglas-Tubb

Available ... Amazon.ca as eBook

Tuesday, May 9, 2017

009 On Appreciating Deeper Processes - Sadness

EXPERIENCE has taught us that sadness is healthy.  Sadness enables us to do our grieving, to move through our losses.   As children, how many of us, when we were hurt or betrayed and left sobbing, got what we needed? 
I didn’t.   Most didn’t. 
It was as simple then as it is now.  What we needed to hear was someone who we trusted say that our sobbing, our crying was okay.  We only needed that someone close to us to label and affirm our feelings initially, so we could learn to do that for ourselves, and then, with some practice, eventually do the same for others.

I Know You're Hurt!
It's Okay.
Go Ahead - Cry!
It’s Okay.
I’ll Be Right Here, If You Need Me!

Experience Has Taught Us – 175 Missing Pieces –

An Explorer’s Guide to Developing a Handbook on Life 

Neil Douglas-Tubb (RCC)

Available ... Amazon.ca as eBook