Tuesday, September 19, 2017

030 On Appreciating - Resistance

30       On Appreciating - Resistance 

EXPERIENCE has taught us that our society consumes tons of aspirin or “fix ‘em” pills daily.  Alcoholics drink, addicts drug, gamblers gamble, and so on, and so on, and so on. 
There is a progression to these “fix ‘em” things we do.  Some of them fall within the bounds of being socially and/or culturally acceptable, and some don’t, but they are all a form of the malady nonetheless. 
It is interesting that what is, or is not, socially acceptable is left to the consumer-participant/actor to define in terms of his or her own benefit.  Self-serving.
It is not just physical pain we try to avoid, but all kinds of imagined and/or real unpleasant conditions: boredom, restlessness, self-doubt, anger, loneliness, hurt, and the list goes on. 
Anything We Initially Experienced
Defined As Unpleasant.

Experience Has Taught Us – 175 Missing Pieces –

An Explorer’s Guide to Developing a Handbook on Life

Neil Douglas-Tubb (RCC)
Available ... Amazon.ca as eBook

Tuesday, September 12, 2017

029 On Appreciating - Resistance

29       On Appreciating - Resistance

EXPERIENCE has taught us that it is perfectly understandable to appreciate how deeply ingrained are the ways our mind has been conditioned to avoid dealing with situations that have connections to our lost hurts, pains, and memories.
This is particularly noticeable when we begin to examine how we resist going into situations that appear to want to take us down memory lane, past any scary bits that have been hidden in the deeper, darker recesses of our minds.

Throughout Our Entire Lives
We Have Been Encouraged To Do Anything We Can To
Escape From Rather Than
Explore Into And Investigate Our Unpleasantness.

Experience Has Taught Us – 175 Missing Pieces –

An Explorer’s Guide to Developing a Handbook on Life

Neil Douglas-Tubb (RCC)
Available ... Amazon.ca as eBook

Tuesday, August 29, 2017

023-1 Intimacy Is: Broken Toys Broken Dreams ... Terry Kellogg author

For Clarity after last week's sharing ....

Intimacy is the result of a sharing and caring friendship built between people.  It is the feeling in a relationship that promotes closeness, ‘bondedness’ and ‘connectedness' without enmeshment. 
For someone who has spent their life struggling in enmeshed relationships intimacy is difficult to recognize. 
Intimacy is not the focusing on each other, or having sex or fighting with each other. Rather it is a growing - side by side - facing the same direction, facing the problems life has thrown in the way, sharing the world within and sharing the world without, and most importantly, it is the building of a history of experience, one on top of the other and allowing that sharing to cause or create an awareness - together.
The key word in the whole process is with. 
With a sponsor, with a friend, with my spouse, with someone who actually cares for me, not just for who they need me to be, but for who I am, and me returning that thought by caring for them just as they are, and not as I need them to be. Oh yes, there is instant sex, instant relation­ship, instant hot chocolate, but rarely instant intimacy. 

Intimacy comes when we are pointed in a healthy direction, when we have a clear identity of who we think we are and are happy with that thought, when we endeavor to live a life of balance, when we are open to trust, and when we are willing to experience our own pain and fears and ultimately when we know, love and accept self.